be THAT girl that empowers other women to be THAT girl

“find a group of women who challenge and inspire you, spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life”

~amy poehler~

I’ve always wanted to be THAT girl that empowers other women to be amazing. I just love how it makes me feel. I love being that girl in someone else’s corner cheering her on because I’ve had that. I truly believe that friendship over competition wins every frickin time!

I have always wanted to create a community where there is no judgement. Where everyone feels like they have a seat at the table. A place where you walk away feeling like your cup was filled and you are ready to take on your life! There is nothing more frustrating and draining than listening to other women talk negatively about other amazing women who are struggling or are different than us. Those are not my people and I hope those are not your people as well.

I can confidently say that I have such a fantastic tribe of women around me that I feel are going in the same direction. We may have our own paths that we are taking but we are all trying to level up and become the very best versions of ourselves. I love that each one of us has a different journey and has something different to offer. Strength lies in differences, not in similarities. That is the beauty of humanity. We all come from a diverse background and have a different story to tell but if we include each other on the way to our destination and value who they are, we could actually help make a change in each others lives.

Here’s a story….this is how I got the name for my blog. I threw out a question quite a few months ago on Facebook, “If I was to start a blog what would the name be?” and had some really great feedback but nothing was resonating with me. I came across a quote on Pinterest that kinda grabbed my attention but didn’t quite give me that “hell ya!!” moment. Fast forward a few months later, we had a meeting for The Urban Farmwife with our little team. We lunched and wined and had a great visit. That evening one of our gang sent me a quote that said, “BE THAT GIRL WHO ROOTS FOR THE OTHER GIRL, TELLS A STRANGER HER HAIR LOOKS AMAZING AND ENCOURAGES OTHER WOMEN TO BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES AND THEIR DREAMS” BOOM!! My mind started to go in so many directions! From that moment on, I knew that was the name I was looking for. So, THANK YOU Anais…you inspired me and I will be forever grateful. Friends…find your tribe and love them hard. You’ve heard that a million times but that’s because it’s true.

be THAT girl that lives her life with intentions

our intentions create our reality

I have been thinking, and working on, living everyday of my life with intentions. This is definitely not easy. I can attest to that. My New Years word for 2020 is INTENTION. My goal is to make decisions based on willful direction. But first things first friends….you have to find your EMOTIONAL WHY. I listened to a great podcast by Ed Mylett, “Unlocking Your Success Code”, where he talks about his emotional why vs. why. He explains that when you attach your why to an emotion, you are more willing to follow through. Anything that is attached to an emotion is going to have a greater impact. So, this really got me thinkin. What is my emotional why for the intentions I have set? Well, my intention for making healthier food choices is wanting to be at all the special life events for each one of my kiddos. P.S….this was Ed’s as well. One of my intentions for daily reading and writing is for my mind…..as I’m aging, I’m noticing that my mind isn’t as sharp and it scares the hell out of me that I may end up with alzheimers and I never want to forget who my family or friends are. It seems silly but that’s just me keepin it real. I have more intentions and emotional why’s but you get what I’m saying right?!

Once you have your emotional why, then set your intentions by writing them down in a planner of some sort. I love a good old fashioned pen and paper planner but you can also use your phone calendar as well. Once you have manifested your intention, DO IT!! I, personally, like the paper copy so I can physically check off each intention. It just fulfills something in me to see what I accomplished that day and that gives me the drive to go another day. Seeing results of my intentions is the inspiration I need to get through those harder days where I struggle to KEEP MOVING FORWARD (all I can picture when I hear this phrase is Lewis off of Meet The Robinson’s).

So stop living on auto-pilot and start living on purpose…with INTENTION.

be THAT girl that steps into her fear

“VULNERABILITY is not winning or losing; its having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome”

~brene brown~

I can’t even tell you how many times I have let fear control my life. I would say it’s almost daily. In fact, fear is what has held me back from starting this blog! I’ve wanted to create this blog for a while but the fear of people judging me literally stops me in my tracks. I know I shouldn’t care what other people’s opinions are of me but on some level I absolutely do! I think we all do to some extent. That’s just human nature.

Announcing my blog is scary! I fear judgement, I fear rejection and I fear imposter syndrome! So many things run through my head that it almost makes me quit. Here’s the thing though….I’ve decided I’m not going to live my life in fear of what everyone else thinks of me. I’ve lived that way for far too long. Frankly, it’s exhausting. I’m living my life for ME because at the end of the day, I am the only one that I can actually control.

Are your fears holding you back from your passion and what makes your soul sing? I bet they are. Please, for the love of all things holy, do not let your fears drive your happiness! You will waste too much of your precious life. It’s not worth it. Let’s step into this together. Do something today! Even if all you do is manifest your goal, dream, desire…whatever you want to call it. Decide that today is the first day of YOU stepping into what scares you. Don’t feel like you are alone. YOU ARE NOT!! You have a community of women cheering you on….and I am one of them.

So, here we go. Showing up for ourselves. Being seen. Stepping into our fears. Being Vulnerable. And for shit sakes, hopefully not having an anxiety attack in the meantime.

be THAT girl that does the thing

hello.

Well, I’m doing the thing. The thing that I’ve wanted to do for a long time. I’m starting a blog. Yup….I’m goin for it. This blog is completely for me. It’s a place to ramble. I have some stuff to say. It won’t always be pretty….there will be some raw real shit on here. And yes…probably some cuss words cause sometimes that’s the only way to get shit across. There may be some cool stuff I just want to share because I like it. I’ll probably highlight other kick-ass women that inspire me. Who knows…the possibilities are endless.

Now look, I’m not a professional anything so take my word as it is. I’m definitely not a writer but I love to do it so I’m doin it….for ME! Maybe you gain something from it or maybe you don’t. That’s ok. I just love to try to empower and connect with other women who are trying to level up! So hopefully that’s what I do with this not-so-professional blog.

So, here I go….hopefully with a few friends that can stand reading my rants and ramblings. Haha!

P.S. There may be spelling mistakes and a whole lot of improper uses of punctuation but just go with it. ok?